“We live in an age where people hide behind religion to validate their egos—measuring holiness by how harshly they judge others.”
“Spiritual narcissism is when someone uses God to feel superior, not to learn humility.”
Human beings often assume that God is about physical rules—about things that can be seen, touched, and measured by shallow human logic. Yet, the very God they worship is formless. He is the divine energy that governs the balance of the universe. The clearest sign of this misunderstanding can be seen in the behavior of many religious people who love to judge others based only on appearances. They measure not through spiritual depth but through physical rules confined to what the eye can see and what their limited interpretations allow. Ironically, in their daily lives, they often commit acts that corrupt divine values within themselves—because of the spiritual blindness they nurture.
They tend to see different sexual orientations as something low and disgraceful. Yet such judgment does not come from spiritual awareness, but from ego and fear rooted in worldly logic. Meanwhile, they often treat the body—especially the female body—as an object of lust. A man who views the vagina merely as a place to satisfy sexual desire has already degraded the sacred value of the womb—the origin of life that should be protected in its holiness. However, when a woman fails to realize the spiritual value of her womb, she may easily give it away—even to a man who was never meant for her by God. As a result, sex loses its sacred meaning and becomes a purely physical activity devoid of spiritual consciousness.
Many people engage in sex without purpose, without spiritual direction, then hide behind the phrase “just being human” to justify their actions. They are busy judging others because they cannot face their own moral nakedness. In doing so, they feel more “righteous” in the eyes of the world. Yet, in the eyes of the Divine, their worth has fallen.
We live in a time when people prefer to turn away from the mirror while handing that mirror to others. They judge truth by what is visible but forget to look into depth. They measure virtue by worldly validation, not divine awareness. Even more ironically, those who obsessively judge others’ sexual orientations are often the very ones whose minds are constantly filled with sexual thoughts. Psychologically, a person who fixates on evaluating others’ sexuality is usually confronting internal issues or unresolved obsessions. The human mind has vast space for creativity, vision, and purpose. But if 90% of that space is filled with sexual thoughts, their view of the world becomes equally narrow—they see others only through the lens of sexuality.
Ironically, many of these people also deviate from the very values of sexuality they claim to defend, yet hide behind the mask of religion. They conceal their hypocrisy by judging others—seeking worldly validation to appear righteous before humans, not before God. Not all people with different sexual orientations center their lives around sex. Many focus on creativity, purpose, and spreading positive energy throughout the world. They care about the well-being of others and humanity’s mental health—things often neglected by those who consider themselves “normal.”
If you always judge others solely by their sexual orientation, it’s a sign that your own mind is too preoccupied with sexual matters. You may be seeking moral validation through religion, yet your view of the body and sexuality may not align with the true divine value: to create life and nurture love.
No human being was born with the mission to be a “sex engineer” or an observer of other people’s sexual orientation. Divinely speaking, every soul comes into this world with its own talents and calling—to serve the light within, not the ego craving validation.
None of us is more noble than the other. You, I, and everyone in this world carry both light and shadow. What sets us apart is not sexual orientation, but how we maintain balance, practice self-control, and live with true divine awareness. We are no more sacred than anything else—even animals mate only during their breeding season, and their purpose is singular: to reproduce, not to fulfill endless sexual desires. Animals even maintain the balance of their ecosystem, ensuring that life continues without overpopulation.
So, if you think someone is “sick,” why should they pretend to be “healed” just to gain your validation and acceptance—only to stand among the ranks of hypocrisy, wearing masks to join your parade?
Yohanes Kabes, S.S (B.A. in English Literature) is a Melanesian writer, novelist, and poet. His writings and articles focus on themes of spirituality and the inner journey of the human soul — the awakening of consciousness. He also analyzes literary works through psychological and spiritual perspectives, believing that life itself is the philosophy of the universe. In his novels, Kabes often explores the realms of horror, thriller, and mystery. He is also the first to design fashion pieces inspired by his own poetry.
